We currently have 5 befrienders at Dumfries and Galloway SANDS.


The befrienders are Alison, Susan, Carla, Ali and Suzanne


Befrienders talk with bereaved families over the phone (07864 709228) or arrange to meet them face to face in order to give support.


We understand how devastating the death of a baby is, whether it’s before, during or shortly after birth, as we have experienced it too.


We had to meet 4 requirements in order to become befrienders.


– One year had to have elapsed since our own baby’s death.


– We had to be an individual paid member of SANDS.


– We needed to be linked with our nearest group, in this case Dumfries and Galloway SANDS.


– We each had to attend and successfully complete the SANDS Befriender Training Programme.


Initial befriender training from SANDS is a two day course. Over this time the course facilitators decided that we were emotionally ready to support others and were well supported ourselves. We also had the chance to decide for ourselves that we were ready for this responsibility.

During the course we had to work in pairs, small groups and as a whole larger group to develop good listening and befriending skills. The course attracted people from all over Scotland. We all met with the hope that we could support others who had been through the same awful experience as ourselves. It was an emotionally draining but worthwhile two days.


Alison has gone on to do the advanced befriender training. This involved experienced befrienders getting together to review and enhance their befriending skills.


Please feel free to contact us at anytime if you or anyone you know is in need of support and understanding.

Next Support Meeting

The next support group meeting is planned for

  • 7th November: 7.30pm

and we welcome anyone touched by the death of a baby to join us.

The meeting will be held at our office at 107 Irish Street Dumfries.

Many people feel that only others who have experienced the death of a baby can offer real understanding of the pain and heartbreak that they are feeling and the support group meetings allow you to connect with other bereaved parents, grandparents and others who share your pain and loss.

The support group is an informal setting and is only attended by people who themselves have lost a baby or their families. You will not be pressured to speak and sometimes it’s nice just to simply come along and listen.

If anyone would like more information about these meetings or would like to express an interest in attending then please email [email protected]

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