Resources and Publications

Dumfries and Galloway Sands have a small library of books which are available for bereaved parents and their families to borrow.

Books written by Parents whose babies have died





Living with Leo
Leo’s father, Mario, has written movingly of his experience of prospective fatherhood and the distress of bereavement. Twelve letters written over a year, from a father to his son, tell the story of Mario’s life with Leo: of the excitement and anticipation, the grief and loss, and perhaps most important of all, the emergence of strength and hope.




Fathers Feel Too
When Andrew Don’s baby Lara Jean died at five months in the womb, the hospital consultant sent his wife a condolence letter which didn’t mention him. Andrew felt like a non-person.  He writes, “Lara Jean was my baby, too. I’d read the books and seen the movie. I was prepared for fully-fledged fatherhood and had signed up for the full deal.”




Thomas A Lifetime denied
Shelley Wilkinson wanted to tell the world about her wonderful son: how his death left her heartbroken but also how it has changed the course of her life. This book describes a mother’s emotional journey to reconcile her anger and sadness at her baby’s death, moving from denial, devastation, guilt, anger and to finally hope




Soulmates : Blessed by little angels
January 5th 2001 was a day that will be stamped in my mind forever. For it was the day in which my dreams shattered into a million pieces at the devastating and unnecessary loss of my beautiful angel son Keiryn. Cheryl Peachey’s deeply emotional rollercoaster journey after Kieryn’s death took her to realms she never knew existed.




I Hate This – A play without the baby
David Hansen’s one man play takes you from the moment his son was born and through the year that follows…. but not in that order.This is an honest, compelling and even humorous trip through one father’s experience of stillbirth.  The script of this extraordinary play, which is touring the UK in June 2007, is now available.




Born Asleep
My personal account of the unexplained stillbirth of my daughter Amy at 39 weeks gestation in April, 2002.  She was my second child. Losing my precious baby in this way was a deeply traumatic and profoundly sad experience for me.  A life changing event that I knew I would need to document.



Books specially for children



Toby’s Tiny Tot
Taken from the series, “Toby’s Triumphs”, a collection of charming takes about a young boy named Toby. Toby’s Tiny Tot is the sensitive story of Toby’s longing for a sibling. Through his eyes, we follow the painful path of loss and its consuming sadness. Beautifully illustrated a useful resource for families to help children understand about the death of their baby brother or sister.



A Star for Bobby
This is a book which talks directly to young children, using language and illustrations they can understand, about the death of a brother or sister, explaining why sometimes these things happen and how this may be making them feel.  A Star for Bobby tells the story of a family of birds. One of the newly hatched birds Bobby, is sick and soon dies. Bobby is buried and his brother and sister, on going to bed that evening, look up at the night sky to see a star shining especially brightly, Bobby’s star.




We had an Angel Instead
A children’s book told from a young child’s perspective about the excitement and plans for the coming baby, and the disappointment and sadness following the death of the baby.




Other recommended titles



When a Baby Dies
The experience of late miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal death : This sensitive informative book offers a lifeline to bereaved parents and their families and is essential reading for every professional who comes into contact with parents after the death of their baby.




Helping Children Cope With Griefs
This book is for anyone who wants to help a child who is coping with grief.

Next Support Meeting

The next support group meeting is planned for

  • 7th November: 7.30pm

and we welcome anyone touched by the death of a baby to join us.

The meeting will be held at our office at 107 Irish Street Dumfries.

Many people feel that only others who have experienced the death of a baby can offer real understanding of the pain and heartbreak that they are feeling and the support group meetings allow you to connect with other bereaved parents, grandparents and others who share your pain and loss.

The support group is an informal setting and is only attended by people who themselves have lost a baby or their families. You will not be pressured to speak and sometimes it’s nice just to simply come along and listen.

If anyone would like more information about these meetings or would like to express an interest in attending then please email [email protected]

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